Queen, love didn’t skip you — it’s just been waiting for your healed version. As a single mother, you’ve carried heartbreak and responsibility with grace. You’ve raised children, carried burdens alone, and maybe even convinced yourself that romance is a luxury you don’t have time for anymore. But let me remind you of something sacred:
Love is still for you. Not the kind that drains you. Not the kind that takes and never gives. But the kind that God designs. The kind that flows with peace, purpose, and partnership. Let’s talk about how to prepare your heart, spirit, and standards so you’re ready when love finally comes knocking on the door of your heart.
1. Heal First — Fully and Fiercely
Before opening your heart to someone else, ensure you’ve healed your inner whisper. That voice that tells you you’re not enough. That says you must settle for less just to have someone beside you. That voice that keeps whispering you don’t deserve the best kind of love or that you’re not meant for good things. Unplug those things from your mind and heart. Whisper goodness and truth into yourself. Let God heal those broken parts of you.
“He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.” -Psalm 147:3
Your brokenness is not the final story. The God of healing and restoration has the final say. He is healing your heart, and you are becoming. Still healing from heartbreak and need a safe space to talk?
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2. Trust God’s Timing Over Your Timeline
Yes, you’ve waited. But waiting isn’t punishment. It’s preparation. God isn’t withholding love from you — He’s cultivating a version of you who won’t fumble the blessing when it comes. And while you’re waiting, you’re being equipped.
Proverbs 3:5-6 reminds us: “Trust in the Lord… and He will direct your paths.”
3. Set Standards That Reflect Your Growth
Your love story includes your child. The right partner will see that as a blessing, not a burden. You don’t need to be “less” to be loved. You don’t need to silence your voice, shrink your purpose, or sacrifice your faith. You set the standard.And the man God sends will rise to meet it.
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4. Know the Right Love Brings Peace, Not Pressure
The right man won’t rush you. He won’t confuse you. He’ll walk with you. And when love comes, it won’t feel like chaos. It will feel like a home you didn’t have to build alone. Because it’s built with prayer, patience, and purpose.
Final Words
You are not too late.
You are not too much.
You are not forgotten.
You are a mother. A queen. A woman worth loving completely.
So hold your heart high. Love is still for you — and when it arrives, it will feel like everything you never knew you could ask for… but everything God always had in mind. P.S. You’re not alone on this journey.
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