Unplugging from confusion. Reclaiming your peace. Hearing God’s truth again.

There comes a moment when your spirit can no longer ignore the whisper. That gentle nudge that something in your relationship isn’t just off — it’s draining your light, your voice, your clarity.

If you’ve been questioning whether your partner’s behavior is emotionally healthy or emotionally destructive, you are not alone. Many women find themselves entangled in relationships that look right on the outside but feel deeply wrong within. Today, we’re naming it. And by naming it, we begin to unplug it.

What Is a Narcissist in a Relationship?

A narcissist isn’t just self-centered or arrogant — narcissistic behavior involves manipulation, entitlement, gaslighting, and a complete disregard for emotional safety. It can feel confusing because it’s often dressed up as charm, charisma, or even spirituality. But over time, the confusion turns into exhaustion — and your soul begins to feel starved of truth and tenderness.

You may begin to feel like you’re the one who’s always at fault. You may feel like you’re not enough, or worse — that you’re too much. This is emotional erosion. And it’s time to see it clearly.

7 Signs You’re in a Relationship with a Narcissist

1. You’re Always the Problem

No matter what happens, you’re the one being blamed. If you express hurt, you’re told you’re too sensitive. If you express a need, you’re called needy or difficult. Conversations become traps instead of safe places.

2. He Love Bombed You… Then Pulled Away

At the beginning, it felt intense — romantic, affirming, even “meant to be.” But once you let your guard down, the affection disappeared. This pattern isn’t accidental. It’s how narcissists maintain control: give just enough to keep you hoping, and pull back when you need connection most.

3. You’re Questioning Your Reality

You know what you saw, what you felt, what you heard — but now you’re doubting it all. Gaslighting is a powerful tool narcissists use to distort the truth and keep you emotionally off balance. You find yourself apologizing for things you didn’t even do, just to keep the peace.

4. He’s Always the Victim

Everyone in his life has wronged him. Every ex was “crazy.” Every friend eventually “betrayed” him. But somehow, he’s never accountable for his own behavior. If you find yourself excusing things because “he’s been through a lot,” pause. Compassion should never come at the cost of your peace.

5. You Don’t Recognize Yourself Anymore

You used to feel grounded, joyful, expressive. But now? You second-guess every move. You feel anxious more than secure. Your self-worth has taken a hit, and your light feels dimmed. Narcissistic relationships often cause internal confusion that affects everything from your faith to your confidence.

6. He Lacks True Empathy

When you cry, he gets annoyed. When you need emotional support, he becomes distant. He may say the right things on the surface, but his actions show you that he lacks the depth to truly care.

7. You’re Doing All the Emotional Work

You initiate every healing conversation. You carry the emotional weight. You overcompensate to make the relationship work — and all the while, your needs go unmet.